I agree with AS here. It will hurt, and it did. Then I was forced to do the dirty work and sell ours. That hurt more. Don't ask because it will not be what you hope to hear. Telling her what to do as well, and what you believe she should do will infuriate her. Just don't help her.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.