separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

My D16 and I talked a lot about where she sees herself and what she feels she learned by watching our M. I told her I thought it must be difficult and that I know that young ladies look up to moms as a role model for how to be a W and mom.

She stated flatly that she had no intention of repeating the lonely M she just watched. She would not treat a future H in the way she watched mom treat me. she said it was very obvious to those around us (kids family and friends) that we didn't have a friendship as a foundation and therefore now have nothing to fall back to.

She praised each of us separately, but said "....IMO, mom's not interested in being a full time mom or W and I don't think she's going to want that from the way she talks and acts. She's interested in what she wants for herself at this point and that's no attachments...." I just listened.

She further stated that she hopes that someday someone will show me the friendship, love and respect that I deserve. She hopes that whoever I choose will want to spend time with me and them (my kids) because they really didn't get that during our M and would enjoy it.

I mostly just listened but was stunned by her composure while we talked. She said she loves both of us and just thinks its sad that W doesn't really want this life while I do. But that's just the way it seems.