Barrybran III - New job, new life?

[Barrybran]

Haha, I wish I could DB my parents. My Dad is the most stubborn person I know. It's just easier to accept what he says and walk away. I've basically done that since I was 17. They'll be gone soon so I won't have to worry about it. My wife and I will be able to set the house up the way we want and hopefully, she'll develop some comfort with me again.

When my wife and I were discussing the babysitting situation this afternoon, she asked "what's up with the flowers?" I replied that she'd had a crappy night and morning and I thought it would perk her up (it didn't; she had a terrible day) and returned to the conversation we were having without mentioning the flowers again. We were talking as we prepared dinner and she spilled about her day. She was extremely tired and just wanted to unwind for the day. As we were talking she wound up thanking me for the flowers, saying they were beautiful and prepping them properly in a vase. I don't know how sincere she was but her thanking me when she really wasn't in the mood is another example of small, yet significant ways in which she's changed how she talks to me.

I'm contemplating taking my wife out on Friday night, Valentine's Day. Not as a romantic gesture but as a "V-Day means nothing to us this year but we're still married and I'd like to hang out with you instead of watching TV at home with my parents and the kids" thing. I'll check my thoughts again over the next couple of days and find what my motivations are. It's a process that seems to be working for myself lately; that is, decide why I want to do something and if it's for me instead of my wife, I shelve it, and if it's for my wife, I go ahead. I have a gift for my wife, this one planned, though it's nothing major. Just a couple of things she showed interest in and nothing personal. I checked my feelings on this too and decided the same about the gift as the proposed dinner on Friday; that she's still my wife and though the day means very little to us this year I'd like to show appreciation for my wife still being around regardless of what she thinks about it.

Tomorrow is another work day followed by the gym so my day will be quite full. I have a day off Thursday although I'll be with my daughters so it's not really a day off :p