Glad to "see" you again! Although your H sounds like he is tippling in the crazy juice again. Not so glad to hear that.
Agree with job, I wouldn't defend myself. Pointless and frustrating. On what planet is it your responsibility to tell your H that his OW's H is in town? Good grief.
You are smart to keep an eye on the money.
Good for you for not dropping your wine on the OWs fur coat. I sure would have. And hug me? No way. I think you handled yourself beautifully. I may not even have gone in if she was there. My "high road" seems to get lower and lower.
