I won't give up II

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Bea and kml, thanks for the posting. Yes, he is out of control, worried and definitely nuttier after ow's h's visit.

In checking all of our accounts (morning, afternoon and evening) I found a charge for what turns out to be a website for Married men and women looking to hook up with other married or single women and men! Their motto is "Life is Short". The fee was nothing to be too concerned about but the fact that he's still "looking" is interesting. The only thing that worries me is that I can't see his 401K. It's in an account that I don't had access to. I will be able to see it in a week or so when he gives me his tax paperwork. He's over 60 so he could be taking those funds out without my knowledge. I printed his W2 and can see how much went into the 401K so I will wait and see if it matches up with the paperwork that he gives me. If I remember correctly, his 401K info has to be filed with our tax return even if there have been no distributions. Do any of you know if that is correct?

Now for my older daughter's meeting with ow over Christmas. First, she refused to go to the house for dinner saying she wasn't comfortable meeting there. She is very near completing her PhD in the mental health field and was anxious to see for herself what a wacko this woman is. She suggested that to her dad that the 3 of us meet without the ow but he insisted that the 3 of them meet.

They met at a local restaurant for what was suppose to be a glass of wine. Ow quickly downed 2 Martini's and was lit up like a Christmas tree. My daughter asked her a few polite questions but as ow got drunker she decided to ask more specific question like how long she was going to be here. OW said that she wasn't sure, that she was just here to "entertain" her dad. Ow continued to talk about what a miracle it was that she met her dad, blah, blah, blah. My daughter asked her a few questions about her family and then asked ow if her h thought it was a miracle too? HA! That's my girl! Ow said, no, of course not. D asked if her h was going to move here and she said that he was looking for a job here. OW also added he could move into your mom's house since there is so much space that isn't being used. WTF!!! My D asked her why she thought that I would even consider that. The ow just cackled and got even more obnoxious. D said that people kept looking over at her like she was crazy!

Ow told D that she would have to come back in the summer and go kayaking with them. Again, knowing about the kayak incident she asked a few questions about the kayaks, if they have wet suits, how far out she's gone and if they wear life vests. Ow told her that her dad wears a wetsuit and life vest but that she never does. Ow complained to my D that her dad was telling her that she had to get a job and how happy she is with her life, the Country Club, her new friends and being at home.

By this time ow had also ordered a glass of wine. D said through the entire hour and a half her dad seemed embarrassed and kept trying to quiet her down. Then he started telling ow that she was full of sh!t and putting her down. D said she's never seen her dad be disrespectful with anyone like he was with ow. Ow asked my D what her dad was like. Really? She's been with him now for over 6 months and she asks what he's like? D took the opportunity to tell her that her dad taught her to be independent and not rely on anyone else financially. OW commented that she was so beautiful and that she will have no problem finding someone that will take care of her financially. D replied that she had no problem with being a with a man that didn't make as much money as she and that money wasn't everything. Ow looked at her like she didn't understand.

D and I were supposed to go to another restaurant in town for dinner after their meeting. When she texted me to tell me she was finished she indicated that her dad and ow insisted on waiting with her until I got there. I pulled into a parking space and turned to open the car door and there stands my h smiling at me. He kisses me and says that D and ow are waiting inside. I almost got back in the car but decided to suk it up and followed him in. He sat down next to my D leaving me to sit next to ow. She's being loud and almost falling on me, touching me and totally embarrassing herself. My h is watching me. My D has the same look of disgust on her face that I have while ow is oblivious. After a few minutes H finally gets a clue and tells the ow that he's tired and it's time to go. She gives me a hug and then grabs my D and does the same. She puts her mink on, yes her mink on and off they go. We finished our wine and got the heck out of there.

My D saw their "relationship" as purely physical with her dad having no respect for ow. The following day D and h met alone for lunch near his office. He really didn't get into talking about ow except to tell D a few details about her previous life. He didn't ask D what she thought about ow but D did get a chance to tell him to be very careful. She's completely disgusted but won't let him know that and has tried to keep in contact with him more now.