TSquared2 thanks for rejoining my posts/life. The more input, ideas I can get the better; and so far EVERYONE has been doing a great job at both giving advice & support. As mentioned I don't want to overstep the boundaries. W has boundaries as well, which she has put in place not to confuse the kids. I agree with her on these. An example is not going out to eat as a "family" after one of the kids sporting events. The kids have an understanding (at least to the best of their ability ages 10 & 14) on what's going on with us. They know W/mom is seeing someone else, W introduced them way to early in the affair. I 100% disagree with this, the kids are the innocent ones here & don't need to be stuck in the middle.
I also know that W & OM have had a couple of fights already. I was there for one when they were on the phone together; W forgot I was at the house waiting for her to complete some paperwork once she got done doing chores where she keeps her horses.
My question is what do you mean by re-framing my fears?
Also how can I or should I restructure the boundaries that are put in place without overstepping the line?
