It is sad, crazy and depressing getting blamed for everything from flat tires to pimples but at least we are not living with this any more.
Good luck at court, I know I settled for less then I think I could have gotten to get it over with and hold on to some of my mental health. Its really hard - protecting your family financailly and protecting your brain from a crazy man.
You are not alone
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
I am so sorry GM - Sorry that you are dealing with a miserable man who only has his interest at heart.
I just read this thread, and realized that it is no different than my own story with the exception of the divorced part. I always knew our sitches were similar.
Take care GM, that's all I can say. i'll be thinking of you.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
Thanks so much for the support BMom and BNBR. I am praying that this is coming to an end. Xh is in complete denial regarding his lies and ramifications.
Both attorneys will make their legal arguments to the judge in private on Monday. She will then tell them how she might rule at trial. Following that there will be settlement discussions. I really don't see this going to trial, but I also don't see xh walking away with nothing. Even if I am likely to get a decision in my favor xh is in such denial that I anticipate he will hold out for something. Please let this be over.
I am in need of prayers. I'll be in court tomorrow afternoon. If a settlement is reached it will be drafted and signed on the spot. If not, we're headed to trial. I want an end to this nightmare. I'm looking forward to the rest of my life.
GM, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope that everything goes smoothly and the papers are signed so that you can finally move on w/your life. You and your children have suffered enough throughout this ordeal.
Good luck!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm feeling pretty weepy tonight. The judge didn't acknowledge any of the principal payments I made on the house or other offsets that I believe I am entitled to. We have to go back next month.
How is it that someone can treat their family terribly and be reckless with the family finances and still be entitled to something. I worked so hard to save my home, but now I could lose it because the judge is siding with xh regarding the equity. This particularly hurts because xh has hidden assets from me and I guess I'm just suppose to except that. This is all so wrong.
