When I met him he did mention Default **** and I said that I would not be able to deal with that situation and myself in the mix. He apparently spoke with D**** and was upfront with her about em and that was that. She was very upset but they have, apparently, been able to remain friends. She has persistently sent him cards at Xmas and for his birthdays - all with Dear WAP, Happy Xmas/Birthday etc, all mu love, as ever, forever, D**** Sort of in bad taste considering he was living with his partner at the time??? He always maintained they were just friends but I know he was in touch with her sending photos of him in some of his performances so - who knows.
Ok, so far we have established 1) he's a serial cheater 2) he likes to keep women on the hook for a backup plan and 3) he has poor boundaries (not telling Default woman that it's inappropriate to send him those messages when he was in a relationship).
Frankly, I wouldn't be at all surprised to find out he was continuing to see Default Woman during your relationship.
Sorry to be a little harsh here, but he seems like a very poor risk going forward, even if his little romance with current OW blows up. Would you advise your daughter to date someone like this?
