good signs, bad signs, or nothing at all

[confusedfather]

It has been a long time since I posted on here, and I really didn't think I would need to search for this kind of advice again. I will quickly try to get to the point. After my last post I just did my own thing. I reconnected with some old friends, finished my college degree, earned a promotion at work, found new hobbies, etc. Everything was really going great. In February 2013 I decided I needed to move on with my life, and about a week later W stated she wanted to file for divorce, which I was ready for. We filed in March and made it official in May. After a couple of months I started dating for the first time in my life. There was very little contact with W because there didn't need to be. With the divorce I was able to completely disconnect emotionally and moved on.

About a month ago I started seeing signs that W may be looking at starting a relationship again. I confirmed this and we have gone on a couple of dates. I am starting to feel an emotional connection with her again, which is also starting to bring up all of the negative emotions as well. There has been little talk about the future of us or mending past mistakes, of course, it may be too early for that. We may find out that the only thing we have in common anymore is our children, which I admit is the biggest reason for me to look at renewing a relationship.

So the advice I am seeking is how do I start this process? I am afraid that she plans to just start over and not work through any past problems. I am sure this is not the right thing, but don't know how to even bring up this subject. One of the main problems in our marriage was poor communication. At some point I believe we should discuss why our marriage fell apart so we can work on those problems instead of just going through the same thing down the road. I really need to know how committed she will be to making a stronger relationship but don't know how to even bring it up without it sounding like I am attacking her. And if I can't talk to her without her getting angry why should I put myself through this? Ahhhh....The more I think about it the less I want to pursue it. I thought this would be an easy decision if ever presented with this opportunity. I could really use some advice from someone who has been here. Thanks,