Still Together & Trying To Work It Out!

[Azagtoth]

Something that came up in MC last Thursday:

The topic of "in love" feelings came up. Our therapist told my wife she needed to take a good look at the difference between love, or being in love early in a marriage, and what it should look like later in the long term marriage.

I understood what she was saying so I added " If you mean the in-love feelings, those are only temporary during the initial bonding period of infatuation. After this wears off, the love is an act towards each other based on commitment; the love matures." The therapist acknowledged and went further into discussion with my wife.

When I spoke with the therapist today, I asked her straight up if she thought my wife was grasping for a pipe-dream; if she thought she had unrealistic expectations for the "in-love" feeling. The therapist said yes, but that wasn't something for me to "fix"; she would work with my wife on these thoughts during her IC.


Azagtoth