The reason I say this is when I come home from work or wherever if I haven't seen my WAW yet for the day. I always say hello.
That way if she gets upsets and says I am ignoring her I can point out that I actually made the first contact.
I do not wait around for her to answer I keep going to where I was headed. If she wants to or wanted to continue the exchange she has every opportunity to seek me out.
If I need to talk to her about something specific(bills) I do it in the nicest voice with the nicest expression I can muster.
It feels weird though obviously.
After I talk to her or when I talk to her I try to watch her body language.
I mostly do it after we talk so that I am fully listening to what she is saying and can validate and empathize.
Lately, I found my W to be getting frustrated much easier than when I first moved back home.
She is projecting a lot of anger and confusion IMHO.
I hate that she is not happy but I am not responsible for her happiness.
I used to think I was responsible for her happiness but have learned through this process that I am not.
In a way learning this is very freeing and allows me to worry me about me.
Not that I don't care about W being happy but when I worried more about her happiness it got turned around to be controlling and smothering.
Just be kind and see if that helps
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
