Still Together & Trying To Work It Out!

[Azagtoth]

Had a one-on-one appointment with our therapist today. Since I am the typical DAM, she clarified for me what a woman means when she says she is "smothered" or needs "space". Completely different definition then what I would mean if I said it to her. Live and learn! Also explained to me a little better about why the sudden mood switch from December; she expected this to happen and reenforced this was a long term process.

Been utilizing the 180's and shared some of the DR book with the therapist to make sure we were on line. She agreed with most of them; told me not to use a couple of the 180's at this point as it might be a detriment. She agreed not to share any of the techniques and data with wife, but agrees with the concepts in the book and they fall in line with our therapy so far.

One of the things my wife had told the therapist is I never take her to do things I like to do. Ok then.....

Friday - we had lull time in between dinner and a movie, so I took her to the local VFW where I am a member and hang out for a drink or two. Wasn't sure if she liked it or not but....

Saturday Day - Had plans to run errands with D10 in the morning, Drop D10 off at a friends at 1300, then hit the city to purchase some archery equipment for D10 & me. Wife was going to do some shopping. Told her I had a bunch to do so have fun and see ya later! I started getting the probing texts about noon:
- Did you drop D10 off yet?
- Where you at / What you doing?
- I am kind of hungry (<---was a hint). Told her I would be a while
- Ok, I am going to get something to eat then. Told her fine, I'll get something later, have fun!

Got a text 30 minutes later basically, can you please meet me at (restaurant)? When I got there, she already had my drink and had ordered my appetizer! Never seen that before!

Saturday Night - To my surprise, out of the blue, wife asks if anything was going on at the VFW, or could we go hang out, talk and have a few drinks. Caught me off guard completely. We were there from 1930 - 2400. Really good light conversation, joking around and stuff. Both had a good time and she said she would actually like going there with me occasionally. Note to self!

Sunday - Spent half the day doing regular house chores while she rearranged D10's bedroom. After that I spent about 3 hours Bow shooting with my new bow in back yard. After about 2 hours, curiosity killed the cat, and she came out to watch and ask questions. I answered kindly but quickly and kept about my business. Asked me if I was going to come up and watch (tv show) with her. Sure. Watched TV and went to sleep! ;-)

Got some conversation this morning and interest about what I would be doing today. Nice. The 180's seem to be working; will continue keeping these up. I feel a lot better too and having a blast with my GAL.


Azagtoth