Hi Job - that is a very funny analogy!! (I live in the UK so I can appreciate the sentiment)... Have known him for just under 3.5 years - he seemed willing to talk about his past - Default **** and others (I have met his ex-wide and some of his ex-partners ) so there has been no deliberate move to try and hide things from me. D and I were fully integrated into his family etc. When I met him he did mention Default **** and I said that I would not be able to deal with that situation and myself in the mix. He apparently spoke with D**** and was upfront with her about em and that was that. She was very upset but they have, apparently, been able to remain friends. She has persistently sent him cards at Xmas and for his birthdays - all with Dear WAP, Happy Xmas/Birthday etc, all mu love, as ever, forever, D**** Sort of in bad taste considering he was living with his partner at the time??? He always maintained they were just friends but I know he was in touch with her sending photos of him in some of his performances so - who knows. What I do know (hence her title) is that he has a default mechanism back to her historically. In that sense I am surprised that there is ALSO a separate OW involved in the mix. My cynicism tells me D**** would have been a known and easier option in terms of ego feed and validation. mmmm - maybe he has both This is just all too much
