Won't stop affair. Want divorce now.

[Mach1]

I'm only gonna touch on a few of these. You seem to handle smaller doses more than the longer ones.

Well I pay the day care, cell phone bill, auto insurance, I just finish paying her car 2month ago. I've also stopped paying the rent since she make a little more now. Deposit money to her account for shopping for my daughter, food and other stuff. I pay the insurance. I've cut some things.

I would advise you to take a look at this, and find a certain set amount that you are sending her. (Work this out with your attorney first)

I realize that it sounds harsh, although her new reality should not come "all expenses" paid. Let her work her own stuff within a budget, that includes what her "new" reality may look like.

Do you really want to finance her affair ???

I enjoy playing soccer and traveling. Can't do that now because of our current situation.

Wrong...

Now is the perfect time to find that for yourself again...

She asked me to marry her and also asked us to have kids. She was disappointed when it didn't happen the first time,

Don't blame her for where you are in your life now. It will not serve either of you well to place every thing on her...

You played a part in this marriage too...

Right ??

I bought her stuff because she's my wife and don't make much. Not for sex or anything. No, I don't own her. She's a independent woman who make her own decision. I was never controlling but supportive.

Keeping track of every thing that you have given her, is controlling. It is scorekeeping, and it keep you from seeing the bigger picture of who you are at your core.

While it may not have been the reason, there were expectations of sex within those things.

I started drinking because I was hurt.

That is an excuse. Nobody is responsible for your actions except for you....

Keep working those answers...