but she states it in such a condescending manner that it really grates on me
Every watch Charlie Brown? Remember the teacher?
Seriously, dude you need to change how YOU look, respond and interpret what she says. For YOU not for her. Chances are she is going to continue to be a PITA. It is YOUR job to figure out a way to deal with her. Next time she starts to talk or criticize, very nicely say….”send me an email and I will respond back to you”….then walk/drive away.
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Her role is simply to oversee and criticize
And your role is to IGNORE and FIND a way to deal with her. She ain’t going anywhere….so my advice, feel it, let it go, accept that this is who she now is, accept that every time you speak with her it will be difficult.
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I am a work in progress and doing the best I can, which is far from perfect.
We all are! No one is perfect…so stop putting that much pressure on yourself. Do the best that YOU feel YOU can. That is all you can ask of yourself.
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She is pre-occupied with boys, music (one-direction) and friends. She is a normal teenager.
Ahh….teenagers. Can someone please shoot me! No seriously…we have man, animals, plants and as a separate species teenagers.
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I need to add more structure in the evenings after school and make her focus on schoolwork more.
Yep. Just do not go overboard. Slow and steady…make small changes little by little.
Rock as a parent of a 20year old boy, 18 year old boy and 12 year old girl…I have seen a lot. I have been a 50/50 parent for several years now. It is not easy. As dad’s we are not viewed the same as mom (no offense ladies)….so a lot of times….we need to be ever more consistent with our actions. It will happen Rock..it will.
Just be you man. Be a rock for them. Be Dad and show them structure and organization. I know you can do this man!
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
