So, What about Bob?

[NTX_Dad]

Geesh, Bob really learned his lesson from his affair, didn't he? :-/ I wonder how his wife would feel if she knew that he was sending compliments via text on a Saturday night.

I imagine your W would not like it if the roles were reversed and you got a text compliment on a Saturday night from a floozy from your office.

The trick is how to discuss it without sending her into a defensive mode. As you said, you made many mistakes over the years and are walking on eggshells right now. The comment you made might have felt passive progressive to her. Hindsight is 20-20, it might have been better to not make any comments like you did and wait until the next morning and ask her nicely if you can get something off your chest, and bring it up then...? You know your sitch and W better than me.

Playing board games together sounds nice, you must be doing a lot of things right and are making great progress overall, congrats!