Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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FloydMan: Oh terrible the long litigating... They want more?! Not fair, not fair.

Anyone: You know, I am still having trouble with the fact that I will have a good mindset for a time, but then slide right back - I had a decent weekend, but today I am having trouble obsessing and just reading these boards... my husband sent me a cute text message attaching something he thought I would find funny. The thing is, I do find it funny. Is this an attempt to string me along? Does he WANT me to not detach - or - I get it, he just has no empathy for me at all. I am trying to have no expectations. But when someone questioned why I found him to be cake-eating earlier, I think this is a small, latest example: he wants to joke around with me, act as if we have been old friends for a long time with no awkwardness, while he lives and has SX with another woman, and brings my kids to stay with them 2x per week, all the while we are still married and he makes no moves in the direction of legal divorce. ??? I don't know how to handle this. It is the height of disrespect for me. But I don't like this way of living. Of course I want my husband with me and my children. I look crazy for allowing myself to be treated like this (by not running to file for divorce myself) and crazy if I do file, because I'm not the one that wants this in the first place. So I wait and watch. And allow myself to be tortured.