T, Sometimes we have to let them know just where we are in the process. So, you've told her where you stand and like Mach pointed out...she has to lose you before she can come back to find you.
Bottom line, take care of your boys and most importantly...you! The ball is in her court now and she's the one that needs to decide what and how she's going to handle things.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
