I have always been a big fan of yours, and your actions over the weekend confirmed why. You have handled your sitch with such patience and strength, you have been very inspirational to me. You are a class act, a great father, and the husband any woman would want. Hopefully your W realizes that before it is too late. Good for you for throwing a few darts with tips shaped by calm truths. She needed to hear that and you needed to say it.
From a T wannabe,
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
T, Sometimes we have to let them know just where we are in the process. So, you've told her where you stand and like Mach pointed out...she has to lose you before she can come back to find you.
Bottom line, take care of your boys and most importantly...you! The ball is in her court now and she's the one that needs to decide what and how she's going to handle things.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm so happy to see this update T. Good things are heading your way.
M38,H39 M:16Y BD:8/12 OWDB:11/12 S:11/12-5/13 "Temp" home:6/13 OW dropped:9/13 "I love you":12/13 H ring on:2/14 Depression back:5/15 "I'm done:" 7/15 H moved out: 3/16 H moved back: 12/16 Working on us: 3/17
Like Wonka, I wonder if that was part of her "cleaning the decks". I wonder if she realized you would be a different person while she made these changes...I doubt it.
You are different though. And in some ways I feel for you both. I feel for her since she seems to still be searching for something she already has but can't quite internalize.
Looking back I know why I did it, but if I had to do over again? I don't think I would be as careful to hold in what I wanted to say. Maybe, but I think it was far more beneficial to all concerned to be be my honest self. It's also wise to keep silent at times, I know. But being honest is important.
Glad to see the way you handled it T. I'd like to be in that club too
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I have always been a big fan of yours, and your actions over the weekend confirmed why. You have handled your sitch with such patience and strength, you have been very inspirational to me. You are a class act, a great father, and the husband any woman would want. Hopefully your W realizes that before it is too late. Good for you for throwing a few darts with tips shaped by calm truths. She needed to hear that and you needed to say it.
From a T wannabe,
CB
^^^^ SO TRUE...totally agree with all this. T, you are an inspiration and example to so many. You have shown patience and CHD, always. She needed to hear these things. And, I sincerely hope she sees what she really has in you, before it's too late. Any woman would be lucky to have you. And, I know you really want her to choose you....I'll be thinking about you both...
I have watched you from a distance.... always amazed at how well you handle things.
You are and have always done (at least IMO) a much better job than I ever did at "getting it".
FWIW, I think you could not have handled it any better.
You sound good man....although you mentioned that it was still her choice..for a while..I think you really understand that this is now all about YOU. It really is YOUR choice.
Whatever you decide - it will be the best for BOTH of you.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
