Won't stop affair. Want divorce now.

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“Our marriage is over for now" can you guys kindly break this down for me

I think LFW just did. I’ll give you my take. Usually, by the time someone arrives here. The old M is destroyed. Gone. In many cases, that is a good thing. Both people made mistakes and if possible create a NEW R. Make sense?

She also said lawyer cost money and will file when she have some money, but we definitely inform me before filling. She said she's not in a rush or sure when she be filling.

Talk to your L and figure out what your rights are. Then make a decision that YOU feel is the right one. If you want to continue to stand and not file – go for it. My point is, that YOU need to figure out what YOU want to do. Not always REACT to what she does. Can you see the difference?

Could this be her way of putting me on backup while she figure things out with OM?

Okay….my answer to this is……

The winning powerball numbers for tomorrow are: 6, 8, 25, 46, 32, 4 and 9.

Seriously, no one here can tell you what she is thinking. The more you keep focused on that the more you do not focus on YOU.

I spoke to a female lawyer this morning and planned on going to her office tomorrow.

Have your list of questions ready!

My job is currently filling a H1 for me. I'm not from here.

Are you legally married? I now understand why you have not moved. I thought and I may be wrong that as long as you were married to an American citizen that you automatically get a green card. Is this not the case?

It's not about money eric.

On one hand you say this ^^^^^

Then you say this…

We have big bills that that her income can not even pay half of it. It was a joint decision for me to stay. So I can support us.

There is nothing wrong with factoring in finances. It just seems to be a lot about money. FTR, I was the same way. They key word being “was”.


You say you have “big bills” – what can you do to get rid of some of them? I know you mentioned a car that you purchased for her. Can you sell it? What about the 4,000 SF home you are building. Can you sell it? My point, is what changes can you make in your life so that you are not so tied the income that you have to receive in order to stay afloat. Think about it…if you needed less, then you could accept less – even if that less meant being closer to your daughter at some point.


Lost – I lived this way for a long time. Made a lot, took care of the family, incurred a lot of bills taking care of the family. I did it because I thought that is what everyone wanted..and maybe it was. It sure was not what I wanted. I have had to learn to rely on less. Yes having disposable income is nice. It is also nice to be able to see my kids, spend time with them. It is also nice to (at least in my sitch) continue to move forward getting out of debt. I know you have heard the saying before, money does not make you happy. It really does not. It helps to eliminate some of the stresses in life – that I agree with. It will though not make you happy.

So once again….please read through your post and answer the questions that have been asked. The answers are for you buddy.

Peace,
Eric