work is good; H is crazy

[ericmsant2]

Whiterose

My main motivation throughout this all IS my boys so I hope when this all clears in the wash this is what stands out.

In my experience it will. Doesn’t always feel like it…but as someone once said to me…”trust the process”. Your boys will be impacted on some level, you really cannot get divorced with no impact. YOUR boys though have YOU. You can show them how to deal with it, show them what it means to be strong, show them what compassion really looks like and (my fav) show them what TRUE forgiveness looks like.

BUT I have doubts that they don't realize it at some point. I'm beginning, through stories I've read/heard, that they all realize it (some even on their death bed) but whether they ADMIT that they realize it is another question.

I would agree with this ^^^^. I believe that most will come to realize it on some level, but I have to imagine the pain is to great to deal with – so they bury it.


Sorry to hear about the payment. I really despise the entire divorce process. The only ones that get paid are the attnys. Do you have any other means to pay the mortgage? Since the agreement has not been signed then can you assume any debt that becomes H’s responsibility? At the end of the day, the boys need a roof over their head – so ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

Try not to spend any energy being pissed at H (very tough I know)…take that energy and apply it towards finding a solution to get the mtg paid.

Peace,
Eric