So, What about Bob?

[woody112]

One of the things I’ve learned over the past 6 months of DB’ing is that my instincts are very much controlled by my ego. In the beginning of my mess I was so sure my W was heading down the road to a PA that it drove me to the point where I did some really stupid stuff. With the help of the good people here I was able to stop focusing on her and the alleged OM, and really start focusing on fixing me. Since that time I’ve come to know that I was so wrong about her. She is the most amazing woman, the most incredible mom, and the most loyal friend I know.

That being said, I just want to get some insight on something that happened over the weekend.

Around 8pm on Saturday night, the two of us were playing Scrabble together by the fireplace. She gets a text on her phone that makes her chuckle. She explains that it was “Bob” from work, asking if anyone has ever told her she looks like Jennifer Aniston. He was down in Florida with his W and 3 kids, watching a Friends marathon… I know about Bob. She has shared with me their conversations, and I don’t think she’s hiding anything. Anyway, my response to her was “Why is a married man texting you on a Saturday night?” This put her off and she said maybe she shouldn’t share this stuff with me if I’m gonna get all weird about it…
So, is it me and my ego that has me uneasy about this, or is this something that I need to have more open discussion about? I really do trust her.