I absolutely agree with what you said about the 'ease' and normality of divorce. It wrecks lives, and I think that the demise of long marriages needs a special look.
I didn't realise that you had no knowledge of OWs husband meeting up with OW. How could it be your fault? Even if your husband divorces you, will OW divorce her husband, and if they did divorce how can your husband control their meeting? It is crazyland
My xh would meet me regularly if I was prepared to see him - never mind what OW thinks.. How does OW feel about your h swinging by to see you?
Watch the money - and make sure he isn't squirreling stuff away. I am pretty sure my xh did that before he let me.
