innishannnon, May of them go silent quickly and stay that way until they need something. What you have posted is typical mlc script. I know you are sitting there wondering and asking yourself if you've done the right things and in my opinion yes, you did. You couldn't leave your belongings in the home, especially since he had told you that it was over and also because of the ow. There is no telling what he would have done w/your belongings had you not gone there and gotten them. So, check that what if off your list.
Right now, he's off into the world of selfish me and the euphoria of the affair and his new life is consuming his time. You and your daughter are put away in a box and stored in one of the compartments in his mind. There may be times that he thinks about you, especially when it comes to places you visited or certain music, etc...but they try very hard to keep us in the box.
For now, you have to find a way to accept the fact that there is nothing you could have done differently because you didn't cause this mlc situation and you can't fix him. The only thing you can do is let him go. If he wakes up and decides he wants to try to reconcile, then you will be the one to make the final decision on that...but from where I'm sitting...that could be a very long time from now, possibly 2-7 years or longer, depending upon whether he faces his issues, accepts those things that he couldn't/can't change and grows up. If he doesn't grow up and mature properly, he'll be an old, lost and miserable teenager for the rest of his life.
Keep the focus on you and your daughter. This is now your time to things for the two of you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
