Thank you so much everyone. I have been away with D as I performed in a concert Saturday eve - the one that WAP and I were supposed to be performing together - the organiser found another singer. It is literally 10 mins from WAPs sisters house and twenty minutes from where I know ow lives/ lived with her husband. I played well but have been in pain. I keep being reminded of his words at BD -
"I want 2014 to be a year of rejuvenation and new beginnings and that means that some doors must close."
Is this normal MLC script???
I also am pretty sure that WAP is with ow this weekend at a yoga retreat. I am reading from the bible and trying to pass this over to God. I am trying to trust in the bigger picture - I need to turn more to God. I truly of not know what I would go without this site and all of this support at the moment. My situation often feels bleak at the moment. Hi everyone,
Thanks very much for your posts - I appreciate your advice and support - as always.....
I think it was klm that posted? Re my WAP not being MLC because of the time frame/affair etc - is MLC on a timeline re the relationship? Yes, what you say is possible - my WAP dies NOT have a blemish free history. However he seemed devoted for a good amount of time in our relationship and, despite the depression and withdrawing he seemed to still want to try and make it work. The deterioration over the last few months - his worsening depression - withdrawal - self medication with OW until BANG - BD - and him showing so much of the script....sure it is more MLC... Gosh - I dont know any more... The affair, at this early stage after BD - is one of the hardest things to cope with....that and the feeling of being deleted. The more I educate myself here on this site and the more books I read the more I realise the process - so yes, reading is crucial for my well being and sense of stability at the moment. I feel a bit better now that I am home in our apartment - I found the weekend hard being so close to places that I know so well connected to WAP. As each day goes by I am finding that I am having to accept the process of letting go. I have no choice in that my D and I have to continue with our life. We have things to be happy about and to be proud of. I think its the shock of the extreme change. I spoke to/was in contact with WAP every day of our time together. It has now been nearly 6 weeks since BD and over a week since any email contact (and that email contact was business like and perfunctory by him). Unlike a lot of people here now that I moved my things out of his house there is no particular contact/connection. I sometimes wonder whether I moved my things too quickly???? My underlying sense is no - I didnt. Reading threads about OW etc people often advise to not accept particular modes of contact under those circumstances - I couldnt continue to have our things in his house when he is in full blown PA with her. He has also told me its over etc. However I moved very quickly (everything out in 4 days) and I think, at first at least, that surprised him. Now - SILENCE........No contact.......No spewing - no monster etc Do any of you have the experience of WAH/W/P going completely silent so soon after BD.... I am starting to suspect that this may be an extreme case of MLC - there seems no interest in him knowing ANYTHING about our lives, where or how we are. I am slowly trying to detach and to live as if he may never return. I am sure at the moment he is not the right person for either of us to be around. It is in Gods hands now but the patience required is HUGE.......and the level of emotional discipline on the part of the LBS not to be affected by the affair/alienator. Trying so hard to be strong Thank you x
