Hiya boys smile. I feel like I need a freakin secret handshake or something. LOL!

J, I know it is hard to read through everything and decide what you need and what you dont. Its a lot of information from a lot of different people.

So, read all this and then sleep on it. Come back another day and read it again. Take what you need, leave the rest.

Here's what I used as my guidelines for what to do. Was I acting in my best interests and the interest of my son? Was I being true to myself and to who I was becoming? Were the actions I was thinking of taking moving me closer or further away from my goal - and that goal is whatever you determine.

I know there are times you feel as if you are in survival mode. Just getting through the day.

The thing that got me through most times is that I made up my roadmap of who I wanted to be and how I wanted to act. I knew I wanted to act with dignity. I wanted to stand strong and I did not want to be the cause of any rift in the relationship between my son and his father.

I knew exactly how I wanted to act regardless of what my h was doing or saying. I did not deviate from it no matter what he said or did. I kept that roadmap in my head at all times so I didnt ever have to think about what to do.

So, get information because knowledge is power.Figure out what you need to do in order to remain who you are.

Understand that you will be tested again and again. The more she sees you unruffled, the more she will try to get to you. Dont let her.

Use your roadmap, my friend.