I picked up a couple books yesterday. 5LL and One by Gottman.
I started with 5LL. I had about 4 A HA!! moments then I got emotional because If I only knew what these were earlier in my M things would have been so much better!
These really are simple things. Its not easy Im not saying that, but if you pay attention to how your spouse acts in certain siutations and you understand why you yourself get upset when your spouse acts or says something to you. It make it much easier to communicate your needs to your spouse and be able to provide for her needs.
It stinks because I was reading this book 10 feet from the door where my W was. I so wanted to knock on the door and say "you got to read this." I wouldn't actually do it but If we ever do R I think it would be a book to discuss together.
Any thoughts on that? I know I need to keep DR for myself and that it why I don't even have it in the home.
Is it the same with 5LL. I wont overtly leave it out but if W would happen to find it would that be bad thing?
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
