Won't stop affair. Want divorce now.

[sandi2]

For your own sanity and health, you must stop all contact with her and her family. Tell her not to contact you unless it is about your child. Cut the contacting, at least for a period of time (if you can't bear the thought of anything longer).

You do not need to know what she does every day! The more you know about it, the worse it affects you. Don't listen to it. She can't tell you...if you won't give her (or others) the chance.

Okay, so she is a bi!ch and uses you to get all the money she can wring out of you. Her family has used you for money! She and her family are not what they ought to be. But if they are nothing but scum of the earth........you can't change how they are. What can you change? Who can you control????

Stop sitting around asking yourself " how could she be so mean" and expecting her family to show signs of compassion. Clearly, they will give their support to her......regardless of her terrible conduct. Separate yourself from them, and stop other friends when they start to discuss your W and your M.

People here on the board can be your support system. Others who are going through similar situations...or who have gone through what you feel, can give you support. Friends and family do not give unbiased advice, but the DB board can.

It is up to you if you roll over and die........or stand up and fight to survive and thrive for a better future for YOU. Cut her off. Don't listen to her talk on the phone. You can control that part.....if you really want to. Stop giving her financial support!!!! Stop allowing her to use you.

You can choose to be a pitiful victim, or you can be a strong survivor! There is a big difference in the mentality of victim & survivor. You didn't get to pick what happened, but you can pick how you will deal with it.

You said you were suspended from work. Does that mean you will be able to return?