IDK I think she is really trying to see how committed YOU are to reconciling. She doesn't want to be the 'other' woman, but doesn't want to break up your current relationship if it makes you happy...and there is that nagging guilt what if W comes back and the person YOU were meant to be with is your new OW who can give you lasting happiness. And if reconciling fails with W? No one wants to go through that again.
I would keep an open mind, decide how committed YOU are to reconciling. SLOW it the direction, because time will only tell if either you have what it takes to re-commit to your marriage again.
