For sure. It is validating, rationalizing and justifying. You need to be bad in her mind. Means nothing. Took me a looooong time to figure that one out. As wilbewell says, be pleasant. It may come back to what you want, but at worst it will mitigate a more nasty split. Don't engage but it is okay to validate and recognize you're own feelings.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
