You are still very angry and hurt. You have right to be. You are getting some very good advice from Lostforwords. I have read your sitch and have some comments as well as a few questions.
First, just wondering what nationality are you? I am Puerto Rican myself.
What nationality is your W?
How far is your W and D from YOU now?
How often do you get to see YOUR D?
And my big question…
What kinds of hobbies do you have?
As for my comments…..
You have posted a few times that your W is not “respecting” you. First, how do you define respect? Secondly, do you need someone to respect YOU in order for YOU to respect YOURSELF?
If you want to quit the M now - that is YOUR choice. No one here can make that choice for YOU. I will tell you, that IMO, if YOU quit now, you will regret it later. Why? Because if she ever does come around and considers BEGGING for your FORGIVNESS, she may decide against it, since you would have bailed on her. Now, I am not saying to promote her affair or act like everything is fine. Nope. Right now, she is having an affair and believe it or not disrespecting HERSELF moreso that you. She is on a high and the only person that can stop that high is HER. So my advice, go work out, find some stuff to do that is FUN for YOU. If I recall, on your very first post your wife said to you to “Go GET A LIFE”. Well dude, I say take her up on the offer. Get a life, go enjoy yourself. Find things to do that do not involve dating another women. Find a men’s support group. Try looking up MEETUP groups. Try posting more. Go to the GYM. Sign up for dance classes. Sitting home and being pissed off at your W and OM is NOT going to HELP YOU.
Also, personally I would not answer her phone calls. If she calls I would respond back with a text that says…”What is it?”. No more, no less. If it is to speak to your daughter, you can dial the number back and hand the phone to your D. When your D is done, I would hang up. Seriously, anything that she needs to tell you can be communicated in email and or text. What you are doing is creating space for YOURSELF…space between her craziness and YOU. This will enable YOU to HEAL and to think rationally.
As for the business side of things - go see a L and find out your rights. NOW.
Chin up dude - it will get better. You may not feel that right now…but it will get better.
I am watching a movie with my daughter right now and will check on you later.
Peace, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
