wbw, I'm sorry that your d has been sick and had to go to the doctor's. I hope she's feeling a bit better today.
As for your h being supportive and caring, he's in his own little world now called "me, me, me". Yes, you would hope that he would care and want to be there for his children...but right now, he's not capable of doing so. You are expecting/hoping he'll do this...but you need to turn the dial way down on those expectations. His empathy chip is broken and until he gets his own life together, he's not going to have much in the way of attention for his children and you can't make him do so, unfortunately.
I'm sorry he wasn't there for her yesterday.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
