Keep your expectations at zero at all times. You can't rely on them and they sure move at their own pace. It's all about them right now and if something comes up, the family is put on the back burner. It's evident that there's nothing he needs from his belongings at your home.
As for him reminding you daily about getting a divorce...notice how slow he's moving in getting his belongings? Actions speak louder than words. The divorce mantra is being stated daily because he needs to convince you and himself that this is what is needed for him to have a fresh start.
Continue as you have been doing and allow your h to twirl in the wind. Keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
