separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

W came by to pick up D13 for a banquet they are going to tonight. D was in the shower and running late. W called and said D wasn't answering her phone could I please tell her to come out. I told her D was in the shower. She was irritated. I asked her to please feel free to come inside and wait. She declined and stayed in the driveway with the motor running for the next 15 minutes while D got ready.

In the meantime, D16 went outside and met her BF in the driveway. they sat next to W without speaking. At one point, I went out and told D that she and I needed to get going for an appointment. she didn't understand. She continued to sit out there next to her mom without speaking to her. W looked very uncomfortable.

when W left and D16 was ready to go for our outing, I told D that I didn't appreciate her sitting next to her mom in the driveway and not speaking to her. It was not respectful and it should not happen again. when I saw this occurring and D basically didn't follow my lead to exit the driveway, I got mad about it. should I tell W this happened and I dealt with it or just let I go? comments, ideas....

I still find it "distant" that W will no come in the house. She's making herself distant and then complaining that the kids are being distant.