One of the the things I found...Which might not be 100% DB'ing (and I suppose depends on the strength of the person) is the less I talked about things with people, the better the situation. I wasn't being reminded of what was going on and of course there was nobody to talk about things....I went so quiet about talking of things that my FIL called 4 months after I threw her out...Because he was wondering what was going on with us. He had no idea what had transpired LOL.
The other part is....Most people don't know DB'ing techniques and their thoughts are usually counter productive to DB'ing.
So take the friends out if you want....put no talk of the relationship problems.
Honestly...Though I would consult a lawyer to make sure you aren't getting yourself in trouble and a DB coach... a great 180 for you is to stop paying her bills. You still need to pay your money for daughter...and also iron out a visitation plan. So don't jump into these actions, but they need to be on the radar.
Right now we need to get you breathing Lost....Calmed down and relaxed as possible. You have a lot going on.....breathing right now has to be a priority.
