Won't stop affair. Want divorce now.

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Lost,

I am sorry you find yourself in this situation. It is a tough place to be. Reread the advice you have been given already. Instead of focusing on W and OM, you need to focus on yourself. What are you going to do to help yourself become the man only a fool would leave?

If W continues to call just text her and say something along the lines of "I appreciate your concern, I am fine. I will be calling each night (or whenever) to speak with D. While you are in another R, there is nothing else for us to talk about" When you call to speak with D, do not allow her the opportunity to speak about other things. If she tries, don't engage. If she won't put D on the phone tell her you have to go and will call back in x minutes and ask her to have D answer the phone. Don't play her games.

How much are you financially supporting her at this time?

Have you really stopped drinking? Just like that? Is drinking the reason you were suspended? Is that what led you to put the wrong note in the report?

Start working out or doing something to help you get your mind and emotions into a better place. You will feel better if you exercise. I know it is hard. We are all here to help you.