work is good; H is crazy

[Whiterose]

Thank you ericsant2!

I fall just as much as anyone else and say/do things that, in hindsight, were not the brightest moves.....but, I'm trying. My main motivation throughout this all IS my boys so I hope when this all clears in the wash this is what stands out.

I would agree that no one knows when an MLCer will wake up BUT I have doubts that they don't realize it at some point. I'm beginning, through stories I've read/heard, that they all realize it (some even on their death bed) but whether they ADMIT that they realize it is another question.

In other news I talked to my L yesterday....it would seem that my support agreement is only enforceable through the courts and not the through a government agency which would garnish his wages. Because it is not an actual written order that has been filed, but the court transcripts that were signed by the L's and the judge, I would have to take H to court if he decides not to pay. I had a bit of a melt down on my L yesterday....she said that the money will be owed to me at which I told her my kids need food now and not down the road. I told her I didn't want to keep hearing about H's visa problems (she asked if that was his response to me via text and I said he never responded to me but that is what keeps coming up in his L's letters to us) I said I also pay family debt including the property tax that was just due, the hot water tank I just had to replace and now a mortgage payment that and it would seem that I am also solely responsible for ensuring the lights stay on, the boys have food and clothes too. She said his L needs to stop using the visa payments as a reason for not giving me my support as child support comes "way, way, way before visa" That it becomes very difficult when "these guys are just jerks" So until we can agree upon the "wording" of the agreement I cannot garnish his wages. She asked me to send H a follow up email and BCC her in it, which I did, and as H's L is on vacation until Feb 22nd she called and talked to a senior attorney who followed up with my L saying he had left a message for H in regards to the support payment due to me ..... so I'm in a holding pattern