So I am in a situation that many of us who have younger kids may find themselves in. I said it before but now I distinctly feel we are just staying together for the baby mixed in with the fact that we both know middle class divorce can be financially devastating at a point in time where we are still in our "acquiring" phase. So we are kinda sorta piecing though he never really called it that. He just stopped his "I am unhappy" "I hate (insert plethora of things) about you" "It will be better to split before baby realizes anything" talk. And when I kind of mention his unhappiness or his wanting to leave he tells me to focus on our house and baby.
But now I am the unhappy one. I feel like a sitting duck. At any time in the future he may choose to leave me. He is the one who decides when we ML (so far only twice in the past month and before that none since mid-pregnancy). He is the one who decides how much love and affection is shared. He is the one that decides how giving to be on special occasions. I feel unfulfilled in my marriage and I resent him. I hate that he left me twice, with EA the first time and feeling totally abandoned in pregnancy.
He is a great father and I really don't want my son to grow up in a broken home. Should I learn to accept what my marriage has become and just be content with basically a co-parenting friendship with shared finances and occasional sex? If I can be content with that, it will take away 99% of our arguments, so is that the best case for my baby? And this is of course assuming he doesn't decide one day he is unhappy again and wants to leave us.
I just feel so empty and alone, but I don't want to get a divorce either.
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
