Still Together & Trying To Work It Out!

[Azagtoth]

First off....I am typing on my Galaxy Pad so please forgive any typos....

The most recent situation that baffles me started on 19 December. Now up to this point, since mid October, were amicable at best. MC started early November and I noticed she had warmed up to me a bit....was willing to setnext to me, snuggle, etc.

She went to IC with the therapist on 19 December and I am not sure what happened in session, orifit wasjust coincidence, but that night she literally cranked it up full force. She initiated physical intimacy that evening and from then until Jan 5 2014, it was full blown affection, attentiveness, etc. You woildhave thought wewere newlyweds! It took meby surprise at first but I thought maybe she had a break through in therapy. I just let her take the lead and just went with her flow. When she left for official training on 5Jan, the parting was very emotional and affectionate. By this time i had been getting "I love you" from her a few times. While she was gone for 3 weeks, I got text convo regularly, how she missed us, how she missed me, and she hoped I missedher too.

When she returned on 24 Jan, the switch was back off again with no explanation! I wasnt hurt so much as I was dumbfounded and wondered if I had done anything wrong. She said of course not, she feels closer to me but her feelings hadnt actually changed. When I asked her why the sudden switch, she couldnt explain it. I was so confused I arranged for a session with the therapist yesterday because I needed some answers. Basically she said she was just trying to "go with her instinct" and just let things happen as she felt them but when she got back and saw me, those feelings werent there anymore.....or something like that!

The therapist seems to believe she was acting exactly the way she truly felt but something triggered her to shut down again. Toldmy wife not to try so hard. We both need to go slow and allow the feelings to comeback naturally. The therapist told me later she saw this a positive sign she is really trying to reconnect.

I am unsure at this point. I feel like I was just used as a lab rat for an emotional experiement and got dropped like a hot potato when it didnt work with no explanation & confusion!

Anyone ever seen anything like this or explain it to me or is the therapist dead on with her assessment?


Azagtoth