Heather, with that in mind, can you start to see the bigger picture? Can you see the intense pain they are in and are inflicting on you and those around them? In some cases (mine for example) there is intent to hurt. But I remember many times feeling like I was paying the price for somebody else's sins. i.e. the punishment didn't fit the crime (I'm not perfect and was reminded of ALL my faults and then some. But they were blown WAY out of proportion and often things were made up that were forgotten later.)
In the bigger picture, it wasn't/isn't about me. And time? Yeah, my ex is on a delayed timer to be sure.
I can only imagine how much tougher that makes things for her.
Her problem to be sure, and no excuse. But it is kind of sad to watch. Like a trainwreck in slow motion at times with little recollection of much of it.
Such is life, no?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
