Limbo is the new normal

[Confluences]

Slow~

I wanted you to know how sad I am to hear your post here. I have been going to a faith-based support group that meets weekly and it has made a huge difference for me. It's for divorced and separated people. The moderators are a married couple that have been divorced prior and the program is really structured and really well presented.

You can get information at www.divorcecare.org and type in your zip code to find a group that is near you. This is more of a secular forum here but the live group interaction has made a huge difference in a very short amount of time for me personally. I know it would do the same for you as well.

I know you have the little ones but it's totally worth it to make arrangements to go once a week (some have child care on site) and even if they are 3 or 4 sessions into the program, it's still worth going. There is also a daily e-mail you can get from them which is nice but the live program is really good simply because it's a lot cheaper then any 1-on-1 counseling and it addresses so many relevant topics via video presentations, group discussions, and a workbook.

Your WAS is not in a good place and maybe he'll realize that and maybe not but you just have to come to terms with that you ultimately cannot control the actions of other people. That's a hard reality to accept but it can be the beginning of a path to peace and acceptance. You will get through this difficult phase if you focus on the healing and seeking some structure to facilitate that healing process.

Please keep in touch and let me know if you're able to to find a local group near you. I wish you all the best because you were a huge a help when I was in a dark place and I owe you a debt of gratitude for all your kind words of encouragement.

Keep the faith, keep in touch, and many blessings for your journey ahead. You have done a noble thing here and it was the right thing.

All my best