I agree he's got an addiction and other issues that need to be treated but he has completely stopped therapy. I also need to protect myself financially. While in this affair fog or whatever it is he has blown a significant amount of Money and accumulated debt traveling the country with OW. He used to be very smart with money. I'm not so confident now.
I hope you're documenting all of that. Any family court judge worth his/her salt isn't going to look too kindly to his squandering joint marital assets on his infidelity. At a MINIMUM, such funds should come out of HIS side of any financial settlement from the D.
I hope you're documenting all of that. Any family court judge worth his/her salt isn't going to look too kindly to his squandering joint marital assets on his infidelity. At a MINIMUM, such funds should come out of HIS side of any financial settlement from the D.
^^^THIS^^^ When I received the D petition I was surprised to find a standard restraining order attached to it (my W didn't do it, the county we're in automatically applies it). Among other things it prohibits spending money out of joint accounts beyond that needed for basic food and bills. It also prohibits assuming new debt, hiding assets, harming existing property to devalue it, etc. I think it's a GREAT idea based on some of the stories I've read here. If there's not one in place automatically when the papers are filed you might talk to your L about getting one in place. And yes, document everything your H is spending!
I am sorry it has come to this, I know it is a painful place to be, esp after being given false hope that he was ready to work it out. I wish you the best as you go forward.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
