Just Joining Husband possibly MLC

[Mic]

Hello Mamab
I will follow your sorry also.
Hugs

[Mic]

Saw my H today at our conference for our oldest daughter. He didn't even recognize me. Really you saw me this morning when I came in to nurse our youngest. Had my hair different -Guess it really looks different - LOL - New me:)
Don't think I am handling this DB so well. I am so angry at him and at the situation. I am so mad that I begged him to be this great father and now he is stepping up and doing everything I WANTED him to do EXCEPT I'm not in the picture. It's like him getting me out of the picture made him Mr. Dad. Course if he was really Mr. Dad he wouldn't have wanted out and wanted a Divorce. Have my 2nd session with DB coach on Monday. Had an IC session today which is opening my eyes to a lot of things. I just feel like this is all going so fast. There was no separation period. We went from everything is fine to BD in October - working on it to It's completely over in December and I filed in January just to protect myself and my children financially. If we agree on everything we could be D in a few more months and then my marriage is truly over:( Guess I'm having a pity party today.

[Mic]

Just met with my attorney. Found out if all goes well and we agree the divorce could be settled by April or May. Is it wrong to want the divorce to take a long time since I love my husband and don't want to be divorced. I am so scared time is running out.

[MamaB]

I feel very much the same way. Everything is going so fast! I think it is normal to want to stay married for as long as you can, this was not your choice.

Funny that your H didn't recognize you!

[Mic]

This morning when we were exchanging kids in the house. Right now the kids stay in the house and we leave. I was playing with our 7 month old and he started giggling out loud. We both looked at each other and smiled and I thought we did this. Then I wanted to cry because I thought even this camaraderie will be ending soon. I just wonder what WAS are thinking and did any WAS dad's become a better dad after the divorce. In the last 4 weeks he's the kind of dad I've always wanted him to be. It's like now that I'm out of the picture he steps up on his days which hurts when I think this is all I've wanted and I am not very sure there is someone else he just wants to get away from me.

[labug]

It happens a lot, read around here a bit. melissa's mentioned that several times along with 3boyzmom.

While I understand that it might be confusing, take it as a good thing.

[Mic]

Thanks
So not sure if this was DB technique or not. Our middle child is having a really rough time with me leaving. She's only 2.5-partly her age and partly because of whats going on. Today she was screaming and hollering as I was taking the oldest to school. As my H came in I handed him to her and said here you and Daddy are going to have so much fun together today. Trying to keep a positive momentum going. He promised her candy but there was none in the house. After I dropped my older one at school I went and bought some candy and dropped it off at the front door, drove away and then texted my husband and said "Here you can be the hero for today by making candy magically appear" He texted back a few minutes later "And the award of mom of the year goes to me (my name inserted) Well Done. Good job!. I truly did it just to help her from stopping to cry. Is it good that he is thinking of me as a good mom or does that have anything to do with a relationship? I guess one of the positives is he has had to step up and he is beginning to see how hard it is. LOL. As a woman I over analyze everything anyway. Thoughts?

[Mic]

Addendum to above. The DB part comes in because what I wanted to say was see what your doing to us, but instead did the opposite and tried to make it as peaceful for him and the kids as possible. I did exactly the opposite of what I would have done had I not been on this board and working with my DB coach.