separated 8 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

Paule if you read this

explained that I wanted to find an opportunity for her to spend time with them is this was the last game of the year. I wanted her to see S12. Doing something he loves....

on someone else's thread, what would you say?

I'm trying to fix W's problem. I didn't need to do that. its her issue not mine. I need to love my kids and remind them to continue to be respectful to each of us. that is all I need to do. w's issues are her's. I have plenty of my own work to do.

thanks for being gentle about it Bug!

today W texted me a long text about pickin D16 up from school when she was sick. d16 and her got into another argument. w felt disrespected. I called W and spoke about it with her. She feels that I never "had her back" with the kids. I started to defend myself and then stopped and actually apologized and asked her to continue. She cried a lot and said its the 4 of us and she's on the outside now. I told her she removed herself and she should fix that.

I reminded W that I can only clean up my side, but I did say that I felt our problems were fixable as long as we worked on ourselves and be honest. She told me she swallowed a lot of her feelings. I told her I regretted that I had not heard her if she had tried to tell me she felt bad. She cried a lot.

I told W regardless of D or not, I will not allow kids or anyone else to disrespect her. W cried very hard to hear that. I told her that's just part of my own personal journey.

My kids are really hurting over this mess. I reminded her that they are not in the driver's seat on this ride. We need to see that and give them patience where possible.