Always and Never are words that make us hypocrites...
Jus sayin
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I find myself in between the two.
I agree with the needs for space away, and time away. It helps recharge, and it does help find a balance....
The part that gets confusing, is the message that it sends. To your children, to your spouse, and the most importantly for you ???
Right now ???
I would ask this during your consultation, and find out legally what impact this will have on your case.
Maybe start with just 24 hours, and work your way into what is healthy for you ...and what is NOT considered any kind of abandonment.
Which leads me to....
When you do your consultation, please pick out the meanest SOB within 4 counties to consult with. Find the one with the nastiest reputation for Divorce law.
Now before you say that you cannot afford them ??
You don't have to afford them, or even use them. As long as you consult with them first ?
There won't be any chance of your spouse using them either. It was my insurance policy for myself in that regard....
Additionally...
Your lawyer will be your attack Dog. They do not make a move without your permission, and they should understand that YOU will direct them....
Right now isn't about attacking anything. Right now is about protecting yourself.
It isn't about what you want to do, it is about what you NEED to do....
Keep it quiet, and keep everything well hidden. No need for the kids to accidentally bump into anything.
