I never disagree with LFW, except in this case. I was told the same thing by my therapist while going through an in house separation. At first I fought it - I could not bring myself to do it. What about the kids? I would say to myself. I can't leave them with her? I would give myself reason after reason as to why I could not do it. What is my XW lawyer going to say? How will they use this against me? What will my kids think? I know my XW will use this against me? I drove myself batty.
Then.....
One day....it hit me. Not sure who or what...or even how..It just happened.
I realized that in order for me to be a good dad, a good man. That I too needed to find some peace for myself. I too needed a break. A break for the OM, break from my XW, break from attny's, break from the pressure of laundry, cooking, cleaning, working, being super dad. Hell - I needed a break from even my kids. The things I love most in this world.
So I took a weekend to myself. WOW. I was able to recharge. I was able to center myself. It gave me just what I needed to last a little longer.
I think talking to an attny is a good idea. Write your questions down. Protect yourself. Make sure that your attny agrees that you can do it (you will want to protect yourself from accusations that you abandoned the house).
Take a break JF. Take a 2 days for YOU. YOU deserve it!
Peace, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
