JF, dude, my friend, listen up ^^^^^^^ ...these are the guys who I read before I registered and started posting, these guys ^^^^^, got me to THINK, PLAN, DIG. Some of the stuff I didn't get for a long time...heck, even now Mach can send me into a neuron mis-fire fit.
I had issues accepting some of the stuff, naturally, especially this stuff:
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You will realize that YOU can control this through looking into your fears, and realizing that none of this is really about you, it is only directed towards you.
It's hard not to take it personally....right ?
These times, when the venom flows as easily as it has recently, drags YOU back down into the mud-pit. She NEEDS you to be this person so that she can stand up and scream " I told you so". The more that you remain you, the harder she will try.
Chances are, that she is feeling a tremendous amount of guilt over what she is/has done, and she thinks that she needs you to be down on her level. She feels inferior to what you have become, and that bothers her....very much.
In reality, what she really needs, is to see the character of the Man that you are becoming. She needs that stability in her life. She is watching JF, make no mistake about it. Although when she sees you living your actions (instead of just more words), she feels that she doesn't measure up, and part of the time, it will leave her isolated in the bedroom texting. The other part of the time, it will allow her to be SuperMom with your boys.
Find you, when the times seem the worst. Let the "new" you guide you through this turbulence. Discard all of those old attachment feelings and realize that this is your new reality.
And it will be your new reality, right up until it isn't anymore.
You can stand today, and be done tomorrow. The beauty is that YOU are allowed to change your mind too....
Guess what? As W has moved through, in and out, up down and spiralling around the tunnel...all that ^^^, she has disclosed to me at several points.
So, they are on to something, eh?
My friend, you can do this. Not for W, right now. But for your kiddos, and yourself.
Hang in there, and you know how to reach me. That is still offered.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
