Thanks Starsky...I see what you are saying. I have to continue to take care of the cats, my girls! But I will pull back on answering the other questions and fixing things around the house. It's hard because she has always looked to me for these things. For me, to continue doing these things makes me feel like I'm still wanted in that husband role. But after reading what you wrote and really thinking about it, as you said, I do need to stop.
Thanks Bond...I didn't see it as her walking over me, but in thinking about what you wrote and the conversation W and I had, I do see it now. I will try to employ the discussion points from your email if/when W goes down that road again. It's difficult, in that, while I continue to work on dealing with the guilt from my actions...when I see W hurting from my actions, that guilt becomes massive and I roll over and take the blame for everything in some misguided effort to not step on her toes or make things "worse".
