Anyway, I'm getting off point. The point is, custody will be what it will be. You can't control that. So don't make decisions based on fear around that.
Thanks M. You are right. I just hate feeling so out of control and feeling that he was dangling the custody thing as a punishment. He apologized if he approach was wrong and said that he was not trying to threaten me. He just wants to keep up a cordial co-parenting relationship. I want that too.
Originally Posted By: melissag
As an aside, do you think your H can handle three boys for say, three days in a row by himself? I know my H could never have done that at the ages your kids are. He can barely stand it now at ages 7 and 9. Every time he talks about how great his kids are and how much he loves them, he has to say they are really annoying and/or a pain in the ass sometimes. (It chaps my hide just to think about it, ugh.)
H loved when I was out of town and he had the three kids. Based on his comments though, I also think that it was a huge wake up call. He said that it was impossible to do anything when you had to be with the kids in the morning and then rush home at 530 to pick up the kids. He said that he had to put the kids to bed, then clean up and could not start work again until after 930/10. While my H wants to see the kids every day, I am not sure that he wants full responsibly of them for multiple days in a row. I am not sure he would be willing to take a hit to his business. But I dont want to mind read.
