Hmm why wouldn't he have 50% custody? Was this and agreement you had?

I can understand you feeling deflated and confused. He's confused.

What was your boundary? I think I remember but may not be 100% clear.

You can't mind read and make decisions based on that. You can only make decisions based on what's best for you. If you can go to counseling with him and have no expectations, then do it.

I wouldn't worry that he was p!ssed. Boundary breakers are often p!ssed. The really in depth question here is, do you want to be in a R with someone who can't or won't respect your boundaries?

Did you do a 180? Or is that how he sees it?

Is he still in R with the OW?

Tough position.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss